"Expert Opinion" on radio

Last Wed, on 91.3FM national radio, there was a heated debate going on during the evening radio prime time. The topic was: Should men be looking at other women while they are out with their girlfriends/partners. The heated debate was between two callers, one a man and the other a woman. The DJs who ran the program decided to get an 'expert opinion' on this subject. So, Rod Montiero, one of the Djs of the show somehow got my contact and decided to do a quick chat interview on this topic the next day.

My answer was, in general there's nothing wrong in men or women looking at the opposite sex in admiration of their beauty. But I was not speaking of oggling or objectifying people as sexual objects. I also added that in general too, men tend not to be experts in multi tasking and chances are while they are admiring the opposite sex, they were not paying attention to what their partners were saying and this can create tension in the relationship. (I also think that women may be better at admiring the opposite sex without being noticed by their own partners! And I've seen this happen!) On the other hand, some women may also have issues around insecurity in their relationship or being insecure about themselves as well, so this is something women must also look into. It was also my view, that men in general must also be sensitive to the feelings of their partners if they know that their partners have issues around this subject. I think this also works both ways, some men can be insecure about themselves too. So ultimately everyone must be right with themselves, before the relationship can be right.

This is certainly an interesting topic that many people seem to be able to relate to!

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