Addicted To Being A Victim

Most people in the world are addicts to victimhood, if there is such a word. In fact, the world honours victims, and make victimhood a really tempting position to be in.

The arena of politics, education, business, society, religion and so on has taught us that it is acceptable to be a victim. This is why less than 5% of people succeed in any sector of life - whether it is in spirituality, finance, business, education, the arts or science. The rest of the world remains in mediocracy which is fine if this is what you want. But honestly, how many people are striving to be mediocre? Almost everyone wants to be successful in what they do. So what is it that is stopping us from being better than what we give ourselves credit for? It is our addiction.

According to an online dictionary, the definition of addiction is: "the state of being enslaved to a habit or practice or to something that is psychologically or physically habit-forming, as narcotics, to such an extent that its cessation causes severe trauma"

The key phrase here is "state of being enslaved to a habit". We as human beings have been enslaved by this habit of being a victim.

How many people feel victimized by the morning rush hour traffic, or feeling victimized by one's colleagues or boss or friends or family, or being victimized by one's job, or being victimized by one's relationships, or the weather, or situations, the list is endless. It doesn't help when we read the headline that says something like "Woman fell victim to con artist" and we are taught by society to feel sorry for the victim, which then feeds the person's victim mentality. So we have indeed got ourselves into one fine mess of victimization. I know some of you may think, but the person was indeed victimized by the con artist. My reply would be, yes she may have lost money or whatever to the con artist due to her lack of discernment or being too naive, but what is her next step of action? Will she remain in self pity, poor me mentality? Or will she take this as a lesson and feel more empowered knowing what not to do and what to do the next time? And allowing the experience to take her out of her addiction to victimhood?

In truth victimization is nothing more than a habit of negative thinking, negative feeling, negative actions. All we need to do is to stop the habit and stop giving in to this addiction. If we want to master our addictions to alcohol or cigarettes, or food or procrastination, we must first stop the habit of being a victim. Stop blaming the nicotine, or the sugar, or tiredness or our body or other people. Take charge and take steps to empower yourself. Strive to be part of the top 5% of successful people and help to increase the pool of successful people to 10%, 20% and more! [We don't have to be victimized by statistics either!]

Victims blame. Masters take charge. Bad things can happen to anyone but what we do about it will make us victims or masters.

© 2009

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