Spirituality Malaysia : "Expert Opinion" on radio

"Expert Opinion" on radio
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Shamala Tan on 04 August, 2009 03:11:00
 
Last Wed, on 91.3FM national radio, there was a heated debate going on during
the evening radio prime time. The topic was: Should men be looking at other
women while they are out with their girlfriends/partners. The heated debate was
between two callers, one a man and the other a woman. The DJs who ran the
program decided to get an 'expert opinion' on this subject. So, Rod Montiero,
one of the Djs of the show somehow got my contact and decided to do a quick chat
interview on this topic the next day.
My answer was, in general there's nothing wrong in men or women looking at the
opposite sex in admiration of their beauty. But I was not speaking of oggling or
objectifying people as sexual objects. I also added that in general too, men
tend not to be experts in multi tasking and chances are while they are admiring
the opposite sex, they were not paying attention to what their partners were
saying and this can create tension in the relationship. (I also think that women
may be better at admiring the opposite sex without being noticed by their own
partners! And I've seen this happen!) On the other hand, some women may also
have issues around insecurity in their relationship or being insecure about
themselves as well, so this is something women must also look into. It was also
my view, that men in general must also be sensitive to the feelings of their
partners if they know that their partners have issues around this subject. I
think this also works both ways, some men can be insecure about themselves too.
So ultimately everyone must be right with themselves, before the relationship
can be right.
This is certainly an interesting topic that many people seem to be able to
relate to!