Spirituality Malaysia : Choices

Choices
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Shamala Tan on 13 April, 2009 10:20:00
 
Of late, I've been hearing a lot of people say that they did this or that
because they didn't have a choice. I am a person who believes that we all have
choices, and that we are in truth never cornered into a no choice situation.
Obviously, I came to this conclusion only after having made many mistakes in
life!
I now know that the idea that I didn't have choices came about through plain
laziness. Laziness in thought, laziness in being proactive in my own life,
laziness in dealing with the consequences of the choices I made.
As a mother, I know fully well the consequences I have to deal with when our
daughter was put in childcare because I made the choice to also have service
work as a priority in my life. I know that life will not be complete for me even
if I were to spend all my waking hours with my young daughter because of my
passion for my service work. Some people have said that I didn't have a choice
but to put my daughter in child care because what I do is my vocation in life.
However, I know that I do have a choice, I could have put my life's work on hold
but I didn't. I know that by putting my life's work on hold, it will not make me
a better mother. In fact, it is through my work that I am a better mother!
Because my work enables to be stimulated all the time and I am constantly
learning to be better psychologically and spiritually.
In terms of addictions and bad habits, I am still dealing with the consequences
of the wayward choices of my past, but I do not complain about them, nor do I
see them as negative things. I have made the choice to see the consequences as
part of my learning journey and it has empowered me in more ways than one.
Dr Stone, one of my heroes always said, making a bad decision is better than not
making a decision at all.
I agree, not making a choice is like being part of a bad choice by circumstances
and being completely taken over it and losing self in the process. At least when
you consciously make a 'bad choice', you have the capacity and power to learn
from it and eventually see the 'bad choice' as an opportunity for growth.
I hope that whatever you are dealing with, you are able to see that you are a
part of that choice made and a part of the process and consequence as well and
in truth, you always have a choice in how you wish to perceive them.
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